The Duggar Family provided audiences and tabloid readers with lots of light-hearted fun for years. People were wowed by how the 19 Kids of the show’s title were so well-behaved, especially in the ways of relationships.

But now that The Duggar Way seems to have a few holes in it — as evidenced by Josh Duggar’s molestations, porn addiction, pursuit of an affair online, and cheating on his wife — the squeaky clean image is starting to look a bit draconian to more people. And some sources say the blame lands at the feet of the patriarch, Jim Bob Duggar.

“Jim Bob’s favorite word is ‘no,’ ” one Duggar family acquaintance tole People Magazine. “He’s like a dictator. He once saw a guy kissing a girl before marriage and confronted him about it. And the guy said, ‘Jim Bob, show me that verse in the Bible that says we can’t kiss. Get out your Bible.’ And Jim Bob was like, ‘Uhhhh …’ because no one ever confronts Jim Bob. No one.”

Michelle and Jim-Bob Duggar, your idea of family doesn't work.

— Loukia Borrell (@LoukiaBorrell) August 21, 2015

That innocent Duggar avoidance of contact during courtship, as well as the continued rules even during engagement, is now looking more like a dictatorial approach to sex that avoids the subject like a disease.

“They don’t talk about sex. They don’t talk about sexuality,” says the source.

There is even the claim that Jim Bob Duggar would not let his kids have toys that made music, or removed the batteries from those that did, so his kids would not be tempted to dance to the music. He supposedly did this “because he didn’t want [his kids] to dance or move their bodies that way.”

Now some folks are saying that Jim Bob Duggar’s approach did not keep his kids pure. It made them worse.

Andrea Denhoed says in a recent New Yorker article, “The flip side of the strict sexual prohibitions in the culture to which the Duggars belong is a belief, sometimes bordering on the prurient, in the unbridled nature of male sexuality. Men are often portrayed as sexually ravenous, constantly on the edge of losing control of their libidos. Women, meanwhile, are generally seen as guardians of purity who must not stoke men’s passions.”

#jimbobduggar #michelleduggar You are a disgrace as parents. YOU are why Josh is how he is. It's YOUR CULTS FAULT! Get off social media!!!

— Kira (@VampKiraLynn) August 26, 2015